This will be short and pertinent to what I’m asking you to do. When we carry slights and insults
we’ve received we are heaving heavy baggage on our shoulders to carry forever. That slows us
down in our life travels. Go light and your days will brighten. You can do your laundry as you
move forward.
Yes, these slights cut deeply. Think why this friend/acquaintance/stranger sought to hurt us. Is it
jealousy? A mean streak? Are they tormented and want to abuse others because of the pain they
suffer? I know that discovering insights into this kind of mean-spirited behavior does not
mitigate it. Everyone knows what civility is, but ask yourself if you breached boundaries first.
That will take some doing, but it needs doing.
If you decide you did nothing to prompt affronts and you’ve uncovered the reason it occurred,
then you have to set it aside. If you don’t, it will take too much energy and strength to carry that
any further. You don’t need a trunk or a huge backpack filled with anger. Put it in a fanny pack
and ultimately let it dissipate because of disuse.
HERE IS MY LIST OF ADVICE TO WOMEN IN ORDER TO ADDRESS GRIEVANCES
INFLICTED BY MISOGYNISTS:
One is that we nurture everyone in our domain? — Don’t we not also need nurturing?
We’re responsible for everyone’s happiness in our lives.—No, we’re not because everyone is
responsible for their own happiness.
We must dress/have a certain look to be accepted.– Do whatever floats your boat.
Appropriate conversations for a female is demanded. — Baloney and not necessary. Speak
your mind without hurting anyone.
If we have jobs/careers we are still expected to run the domestic scene. — We can and should
demand equal sharing of a spouse or partner.
Divorce is usually blamed on the woman; she didn’t make her man happy.– Everyone takes
responsibility for their own behavior.
Children go wrong, mother blamed. — Who was this Freud? Fathers as well as mothers must
participate in raising children and share whatever happens, good or bad.
Women sandwiched between aging parents and teenagers (spouses will say why worry)? —
Well, they don’t have to worry because you’re doing that for him. Ask for concern.
Women are weaker, not as bright, is a tired concept still embraced by the younger generation.
— We don’t have to push our intelligence in their face, but we should point out when we do
shine.
If a woman is assertive, she’s too aggressive. If a man is assertive, he’s dynamic. — Well,
time to dispel that.
Ladies, I urge you to release your creativity. Don’t be afraid to stand up, or be afraid of what
society will call you. Go for it.
